Have you decided to elope and not sure how this all works? Should your inner circle be involved or just you and your love? There are many questions about the best way to elope, but I’m here to tell you that there are no rules! Whether you elope with family or go solo, elope the way YOU want!
Brides and grooms have many different reasons for why they want to elope. If you don’t really care about following traditions, then eloping may be right for you. Couples elope because their lives are full of adventure, so why not kick off your marriage with one. Be authentically you and do things YOUR way.
An elopement is all about committing yourselves to each other without the traditions of big weddings. It is far more intimate and can be as adventurous as you want it to be.
Adventure eloping doesn’t mean the people in your bubble can’t be part of your big day. Perhaps you both would like your parents there, or you want your best friends to be a witness. There are many ways to involve your family and friends.
There are many other ways to involve your family, and you will know the perfect tasks for each of them based on their personalities. Don’t be afraid to delegate!
I compiled a list of pros and cons for eloping with family so you can make a choice that is best for you!
Eloping alone creates a unique and intimate experience like no other. A romantic adventure with just the two of you, and memories to last a lifetime.
Eloping alone tip: have your family members write you letters that you and your partner can open at your elopement. It creates a beautiful, emotional experience knowing all the friends and family supporting you on your day.
Here is a list of pros and cons for eloping without family:
There are various ways you can share your big day with the ones you love. For those joining you on the adventure, pop some champagne on the hilltop or have a relaxed dinner to celebrate. If they aren’t joining you for the actual commitment ceremony, plan a small intimate party and paint a picture of the beautiful day you just had.
There are some fun activities you can do with your guests at your elopement. Make a weekend out of the celebration and create unforgettable memories with those closest to you:
Relive your memories and the excitement of your elopement by planning a watch party and send an invitation to everyone to come over to your house for a big celebration. Watch your wedding video together and browse through all your beautiful photos. This gesture will make everyone feel included and special.
For the family who can’t be there, Facetime and Skype are excellent tools to use. Everyone will feel included, and you can have multiple people on the call at the same time. Say “I do” and give your favorite people a call. Show them the magnificent backdrop that is your view.
Hold a sign that says “we eloped” while I take the perfect picture for you! If you don’t have reception, send it out later.
Because you’re going against tradition by eloping, you can expect to have mixed reactions from those closest to you. Some will be happy for you, and others will feel left out and upset. Speak your truth, and stick to you and your partner’s plans and ideas.
Your tribe will respect your decision once they’ve come to terms with your dreams. Remember that you can’t control how people react, and you shouldn’t take anything personally. However, what you can have control over is how YOU react, so try to remain understanding of others.
Setting boundaries once you’ve planned your elopement is essential. Always be upfront with others, and explain to them what’s important to you.
Don’t let anything get out of your control, as you will end up having to explain yourself, and you and your partner will be unhappy with your planning.
By compromising on too many things, you will lose sight of what’s important to you, and your elopement may end up becoming a traditional wedding.
Your elopement day is a magnificent journey that you and your love will take to kick off your lives together. You’ll get to set your own rules whether you choose to take your inner circle of family and friends with you or not – make sure that whatever you decide to do makes you feel comfortable.
Your family and friends will support and love you no matter what you decide to do!
Still have questions about eloping with family or breaking the news that you are eloping just the two of you?
I’m here to help 🙂
I’m your elopement hype girl and a photographer for the goofball lovers + those who want to make their wedding day an adventure. I’m also the owner of a converted camper van and love exploring the outdoors. You’ll find my heart on this blog. Whether it’s documenting my real life couples or giving my brides + grooms the tips + tricks they need to plan their best elopement, I’ve poured my heart out for you here.
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It’s so important to set boundaries during your elopement if you decide to include family members. I loved the pros and cons that you laid out so you give people an option to see the full picture and choose what works best for them.
A perfect resource for how to elope with family and include your loved ones at your elopement, thank you! Such an important subject to educate couples on because this is such a critical element in any elopement. Awesome job, beautiful work, keep being amazing.
Such a great blog post on how to include your family on your elopement day! So many great ideas and gives couples the option to include their loved ones when maybe they thought they couldn’t. Well done!
It is definitely so important for couples to go the route that truly speaks to him!
These are really great! I love how you set it up pros and cons – the images are wonderful too. BRAVO!!
Pointing out the pros and cons of having your family involved and not there is so nice to see! It’s the added extra details that helps us make a better decision. Great information for how to elope with family!
This is such a great resource for couples trying to make decisions like this while planning their dream day – whatever that may look like! Wonderful information, great organization and beautiful photos. Love it!
This is such a great resource for couples who are torn with whether or not to include family. My husband and I really struggled with this, and in the end we decided to include them. We had a beautiful day and loved everything about it– but there are definitely some key points here to factor in when deciding what you want to do and what boundaries you want to set. Great post!
Lot’s of great tips in here!